Approach to Psychotherapy

Common issues for seeking therapy:

  • Anxiety
  • Anger Management
  • Blocked Creativity
  • Chronic Pain
  • Conflict
  • Depression
  • Eating Disorders
  • Grief
  • Health Crisis
  • Incest
  • Panic Attacks
  • Relationship Issues (both home and work)
  • Sexual Abuse

Common benefits of psychotherapy:

  • improved self-esteem
  • lowered stress
  • increased confidence
  • increased productivity
  • a more positive response to stress
  • renewed or strengthened interest in pleasurable activities
  • a subjective experience of feeling “more like ones self”
  • improved communication skills
  • more satisfying relationships
From years of gardening, Melissa understands this rule: what we focus on grows.

If you go to your garden and lament the weeds, there will only be more weeds. True gardening requires clarity and loving focus on what you want. Weeds are normal and not to be feared. Weeding is a process of growing flowers or fruit. Psychotherapy is a form of human gardening. It’s a careful process of choice-making. learning to tend what you want to grow, making room for it in whatever way is best. It’s a process.

What we focus on may grow, but what we can’t admit, festers. Therapists act as guides through issues which may be difficult to see, admit, or accept. Painful feelings we have. Experiences in our past that still disturb us. Images and actions of a past self that are painfully inaccurate, or destructively outdated.

However, active reflection, guided by a trusted other, is one of the strongest tools we have to relieve stress, strengthen our capacity, and nourish our sense of belonging in the world. Acknowledged struggle can become your greatest future asset.

When someone is asked why they haven’t let something go, it implies that they should have. While balloons can be released, they still land somewhere. Things of a psychological nature are like that as well. Therapy allows the space for these issues to be accepted, if not loved and explored. When we allow ourselves our true experience, the pain is a teacher and confusion becomes understanding, acceptance and wisdom.

Effective therapy may result in improved self-esteem. Positive responses to stress are possible. Increased confidence, productivity and interest in meaningful action are a result. That subjective experience of feeling “more like one’s self” becomes the norm. By products of utilizing the proper tools results in improved communication skills as well as more productive and satisfying relationships with others.

Melissa’s gift as a Psychotherapist and Reinvention Coach is that she sees straight through to the very best expression of individuals so that which does not belong drops away.